Complaining about complaining about millennials and their Social Media.

Stephanie Fairyington has a really fun name, but wrote a really terrible article. “Are millenials hearing ‘no’ enough?” begins by saying social media is infantilizing us, by giving us a platform to rant and post dumb, self-involved updates which we expect our friends to “like” and compliment. According to Fairyington, this means we have little to no experience with rejection. She then goes on about how she was told “no” all the time by her mother when she wanted to buy candy, so now she can budget and has self-control (because not buying pop rocks is the same as balancing your checkbook. Sure.). She then mentions a cartoonist whose mom critiqued his art, and now he’s a better artist and person. So apparently we have terrible parents and we were raised social media, where we can post our dumb selfies or our stupid opinions on current events, and we don’t have an editor to tell us that we’re morons and shouldn’t post it. And therefore we are infants. (Actually, millenials didn’t have Facebook or social media really until high school or later. The generation below us is being raised on social media. Just saying.)

Alright, let’s start with the beginning. You know we still do other things, right? Social Media Networks aren’t our entire lives—we have plenty of other places where we can, and often do, hear “no.” Look at our economy that your generation helped destroy (thanks for that, by the way)! “No” is everywhere! Good jobs and internships and schools are more competitive than ever. And to get into these good schools so we can get these informative (and probably unpaid) internships so that we can hopefully maybe get a job, we have to do a lot of things. We have to show leadership and creativity and motivation and be involved in an absurd amount of activities to do it. And guess what? There’s more competition there, too! We are surrounded by “no.” It is everywhere. It is overwhelming.


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Also, do you have a problem with us, or our parents? Just because we are on Facebook does not mean that we don’t have parents. We still have mothers who critique our art and stop us from buying stupid things. We have teachers who tell us to re-write something and intelligent peers who make us re-think our beliefs. Maybe we receive a participation trophy now and then, but that doesn’t mean we always get our way.

We don’t have nearly as big of a problem as you seem to think we do.Yeah, Social Media Networks are places where we can rant, or post a selfie, or give an update. And sure, we want our friends to “like” what we post. But that doesn’t always happen. Actually, what happens pretty often is nothing at all. People wont always like your status or your picture or your commentary on life. Because your pun isn’t that funny and you don’t look as cute as you think you do in that selfie.

“No” is all over social media, it just isn’t always so explicit. We feel the “no” in the lack of responses as well as in the occasional “friend” who will straight up tell you that you’re boring or wrong or that picture is tacky. Those people do exist and will call you out. You mention YouTube, but I feel like you’ve somehow never visited that site, because the amount of negative comments on YouTube is insane. People are mean. And people love to be mean via social media. (Ever heard of cyber bullying?) I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve deleted a status that no one “liked” or an old profile picture no one commented on. Social media definitely has its problems, but a lack of “no” is not one of them.

So now I’m telling you, “no.” No, this story is not original or innovative. It is not new to complain about the generation a few below yours. You are not breaking glass ceilings or being bold by calling out millennials for being in a situation your generation helped put us in. No. Try again.


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