How much is too much?
You log onto Facebook to find a lengthy status post from an acquaintance and you take about five minutes to read the entire thing. After reading, you sit there annoyed that someone has once again used Facebook as their personal diary. There are many dislikes about Facebook including 36% of users who don’t like when people share too much information about themselves.
Photo courtesy of Pew Research Center article: “6 new facts about Facebook” We all have those people on our news feed who we can’t stand because they post ALL THE TIME, yet we don’t un-friend them. Is it because we like to think we are better than them because we don’t feel the need to post all the time? Is it because we get personal pleasure out of it? Or is it just because we like having an excessive amount of friends on Facebook? Whatever your reason for keeping them as a “friend,” the real question is what is it about these posts that we hate so much?
In an article from the Huffington Post called “7 Ways to Be Insufferable on Facebook,” they talk about how to be “unannoying” in a Facebook status. Ideally, you must be either interesting and informative or funny and entertaining. The article talks about how these don’t bother users because they make the reader’s day better. On the other side, annoying statuses typically consist of one or more of these five motivations:
- “Image crafting” where the author wants to affect the way people think with their editing of pictures
- Narcissism, where they only talk about themselves
- Attention craving
- Jealousy inducing
- Loneliness, where people want Facebook to help them feel better
Have you ever seen statuses like this? I sure have and they are incredibly insufferable to read. However I do so (and I know a lot of you do too) because they usually have many likes and commentary and we want to feel included. I have a strong distaste for people who post very long statuses and therefore refrain myself from partaking in that type of Facebook culture myself. People are curious about what you’re up to, but not specifically a play-by-play account what you had for lunch today or an extensive post about how you’re feeling every Tuesday.
So we come back to the question: how much is too much? There are shared practices that are specific to Facebook. How people act is part of an unspoken list of rules that govern the social network. Posting a few edited pictures is okay, but when you just start bragging excessively and posting a lot and very frequently, that’s when people start debating whether to click the un-friend button. So next time you decide you want to share something on Facebook; you may want to think twice.
Feature photo courtesy of Flickr user Hadi Zafa